Doctor Time and Goals vs Patient Time and Goals

Kara Monroe
3 min readNov 8, 2023

I’m continuing to tell the story of my journey with endometrial cancer. I speak openly and honestly in these posts so if that might offend you, please feel free to check out my newsletter or my other writings instead.

“Cancer is not an emergency.”

This was the first line of a response I read in a wonderful cancer support Facebook group I’m in. It’s not a line I would ever lead with to another person going through this nightmare but it has been a recurring theme in my brain ever since I read it so it was probably good that I saw it.

Doctor Time vs Patient Time

I’ve started adding notes in many of my texts to friends and family that “doctors don’t work on Kara Time”. And, that fact is incredibly frustrating.

At the moment, I’m waiting on someone to call me to schedule an appointment for a CT scan and someone to call and let me know what time a meeting is taking place on November 15. And then, today, when I asked a question to my oncologist’s office about the CT Scan order that is in the e-chart system, as something in it contradicted what the doctor told me by phone yesterday, the nurse not only confused me on that specific point more but told me to call their main line to schedule. Yesterday, the doc told me that someone would call me to schedule. GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

This is a moment when I have to step back and reframe the situation and try to remember that none of this is going to move forward without me and, as I learn more about the potential side effects of these treatments, the more time I want to give my body to get stronger post surgery.

Side effects brings me to my second point for this brief post.

Doctor Goals vs Patient Goals

Doctors have a goal. It’s typically to cure you of your disease. While the best doctors will also care about the side effects that their cure might cause, what I read in the Facebook groups is that a) some don’t seem to care at all and, more often, b) there isn’t a whole lot they can do about the some of the side effects. Typically, it’s the worst of the side effects they can’t do anything about — and particularly those that may not be apparent until weeks or months after…

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Kara Monroe

I am a world traveler, part-time road warrior, and home body all wrapped up in one gadget-loving package. Writer, photographer, chef, and aspiring artist.